Stop Being So Dramatic

Image result for stop dreaming bigI think it’s safe to say most people have a “Big Dream” in life. When I ask people what their Big Dream is, they usually get a wistful look in their eyes as they describe it to me. It could be big like moving across the world, or small like writing a novel. But it’s their Big Dream.

What stops us from achieving these dreams are our beliefs and our non-action. 

How many of you have taken the Meyrs Briggs test and know what “type” of person you are? Now how many of you let that limit what you do and belief?

“Sorry, I’d love to help you with the groceries you just dropped in front of my house, but I’m an introvert and don’t like to leave my house.” 

You are and live what you tell yourself. If you fully believe that you’re an introvert, you will always be one. That’ll by your fallback answer when you don’t do things in life. But if you know you’ve always been an introvert, that doesn’t mean you can’t put a system in place to change that.

“I’d love to write a novel but I fall back on old patterns and fears, and never finish anything.”

Is this what you told your teachers in high school and college? “Sorry, but I have too many fears about writing to finish this.” I doubt that would have gone over well. (Also, it’s total bullshit that you don’t finish anything. Have you showered? Dressed? Eaten? You’ve finished those things, you can do more. Trust me.)

Stop telling yourself you want to do something but have fears or are too much of an introvert to do it. Stop being so dramatic. Your subconscious believes you! It doesn’t know the difference. “Oh, I’m too scared to write? Okay. I won’t do it then.”

You want to write a novel? Stop over-dramatizing it and make a simple system to follow so you can cross that Big Dream off your list. I can help with that, if you need it.

 

Do You Create Just for Yourself?

unnamedHow often do you create just for yourself? I know I don’t do it often enough. Usually when I have time to sit and create, I think about who I am creating for. It could be for a specific person like a card, or for a group of people like something free to give away on my blog.

Rarely do I sit down and think, “I’m going to write out that weird short story I’ve been thinking about, just to see how it turns out.” When I write it’s usually FOR something. To sell a novel, or a workbook for creatives, or anything else that’s specifically for someone else.

If we’re always sitting down with a plan in mind, we’re not leaving ourselves open to explore new ideas and curiosities. Maybe that weird short story I want to explore will turn into something bigger…something I can publish. But for now, wouldn’t it be fun to just write it without a plan in mind? (Yes, Rebel, yes it would.)

A simple way to remind yourself to create for just you is to schedule it in. I have a daily planner that I use for little tasks. I spend a lot of time sitting at my computer working and writing. If I don’t write down the ideas that pop into my head as they come, they’ll be gone. Writing in something like, “work on my short story” is trigger enough to get me to sit, even for five minutes, and write just for myself.

The photo above is something I made a few years ago. I suddenly got into drawing cirlces on a canvas, then coloring them in with Sharpies.  I spent night after night working on these canvases just for me. Then, because I’m me, I started thinking of ways to give them away. I ended up making a dozen black and white ones for kids in the cancer ward at our local hospital. I thought they could color them while having chemo. I contacted the hospital and brought them in.

I’m really glad I did that, but after I was done, I’d lost my mojo for creating them for myself. This is the only one I made for me that I kept, and whenever I look at it hanging in our bathroom, it reminds me of being in my own little world for those few days, listening to music, drawing, and coloring.

Do you create just for yourself? If not, why not start?